I have been on a tidying binge around here, starting with the more time-sensitive TTC category.  Also deleted a bunch of blogs that for whatever reason, no longer existed, or hadn’t been updated since 2007.  I hope wherever you are, my friends, it’s a good place.

Moving from TTC - Expecting:

• …two wives and a boarder marker…
• Amy and Melissa
• baby toes
• baby.fatty
• Hatchling
• L’Dor Va Dor- From Generation to Generation
• My Pen Ran Out
• puffer and the baby fish
• Reproducing Genius

Moving from TTC - Babies (sorry about that, ladies & congrats! ETA: Sorry that we, um completely missed your entire pregnancy, not sorry that you have a baby now)

• A New Family
• Aspiring Baker
• Baby Beans (two moms! two babies!)
• Baby Colored Glasses
• Cutest Little Baby in Town
• Desperately Seeking Baby Now TTC #2!
• Family Values
• Follow My Baby Journey
• IndyNess
• Journey Towards Our Baby
• love+love=marriage
• Notes from 2 Moms
• Our Incredible True Adventures
• PBX Makes Four
• soulbliss
• two older hippos wanting a baby hippo

Moved from Expecting to Babies (Hooray!)

• 1 In Vermillion
• BabyBoom 2 Futuras Mamis Lesbianas.
• Dos Mamas
• Enough Grows
• First Time Second Time
• For the Long Haul
• It’s Taking a Village
• Luca Has 2 Mommies
• The Chronicles of Conception
• Wannabe Earth Mamas
• We Are Fambly

P’ito tells the New York State Senate what he thinks

This was the first time I have been at Pride with my kid, and it was so different. Different from going as a non-parent, different from my expectations…

When we were TTC and then waiting for P’ito to come home, I watched the families with kids with pride and a hefty side dish of envy. I wanted what they had and I wanted it NOW. I had this vision of us all walking along, holding hands as a family, with the local lgbt families group… and instead it felt a little bit like herding cats.   At the same time, I was free to browse in the information tents, snag all the swag I wanted, chat with friends, yell raunchy comments at the ladies, watch all the groups go by and cheer…

My parents were there with us - which was awesome - I have the most supportive family ever - but I was hot and cranky because P’ito was sleepy and cranky and because I kept feeling like I was losing people along the way. Tons of half-finished conversations because where did they go? Are we losing the group and falling in with the loud bar group behind us?

But when I finally pulled him out of the stroller and sat him on my shoulders, it was perfect. He waved and smiled and held his sign, and I managed to relax a bit and enjoy myself.  I like our small(er) city pride - a managable parade without hours of smiling politicians and liquor floats - but lots of people both gay and straight out on the streets cheering us on.  Add in a beautiful sunny day, and you’re there.

So:

What does Pride mean to you?  What are your personal Pride traditions and memories?  Do you dream of marching with your kid someday?

And how do you explain all the fabulousness of drag queens and leathermen and PTA presidents to your kids, if you’ve got kids old enough to say “’cause why, mama?” I didn’t have to do much explaining this year, but I’m puzzling over how to explain to P’ito what exactly it is that we’re celebrating.  How do you explain Pride to a preschooler without getting too deep into the ugliness of homophobia?

And don’t forget to add your family pride photos to the LesbianFamily.org flickr group…

On a totally different note - please welcome to the ranks of LF.org:

TTC:

Figboiler

Non-Bio:

Butchmama

Young Kids:

Lavender Tales

[Photo by Christopher Gannon, AP, in The Columbia Missourian.]

Above: Dawn BarbouRoske, second from left, of Iowa City leans towards her partner, Jen BarbouRoske, after learning of the Iowa Supreme Court ruling Friday in favor of legalizing gay marriage. Between them is their daughter Bre, 6. Their other daughter, 11-year-old McKinley, left, reacts to the ruling.

We extend our hearty congratulations to lesbian families in Iowa, who as of yesterday began to be able to receive the myriad legal protections afforded by state-recognized partnership.

In LesbianFamily.org news, we have two new additions and a transition:

• Geek and Lawyer, who live and write in Australia, joins the TTC listings, 
• adventures in making a baby has joined the Expecting listings, and
• Creating a Miracle moved from TTC to Expecting

Welcome, yay, and congratulations!

Two more blogs are on deck (also an addition and a transition), and as soon as we can find out what the URLs are, we’ll announce them here.  This makes for as good a time as any to remind you to include your URL in a comment when you’re letting us know you want to be listed or shifted.  :)

Over the past several weeks, a wonderful handful of folks have written in and offered to help tend the LesFam field here.  Next week I hope to run a welcome post, and will invite the new folks to introduce themselves (and the returning old folks to re-introduce and update us). ‘Til then, we raise a sippy cup to you, Iowa!

No new postings requests this week! First such quiet week in a while.

Meanwhile, we’re still stumping for co-conspiritors here at LesbianFamily.org (see Liza’s post in late March), and we’re still planning on having a Lesbian Family Blogger Meet Up in Chicago in late-July, the Sunday morning following the BlogHer conference (see my post as of late March, here).

Warmest wishes that spring is springing where you are. If you are a practicing Judeo-Christian (either or both!), may the upcoming holidays of Easter and of Passover renew your faith.

Of course if you look a few pictures further in ohchicken’s photostream, you’ll see that the spaghetti’s appeal was time-limited. Go check it out. She writes about her family and her life at  we are fambly. where you’ll find more Jude! Jude! Jude! with and without spaghetti.

Now to the new  or updated listings news: LOVE IS LOVE has both moved to a new blog, and become a combined project of both gals, Bebebaba and Bebemama.  Perhaps an even more thrilling move was from TTC to Expecting.

Shrike & Whozat went from Expecting to Babies!  About five months ago in real life, and just recently at LesbianFamily.org. Congrats, and happy recent five month birthday to Peeper!  Yowza what a doozy of a month she just had.  And her mamas.  

Mother Issues, has recently listed in Foster and Interracial Families. Welcome to Lee and Thorn, who describe themselves as “at the very beginning of our journey to become mothers via special needs adoption.”

New to the TTC listings is metal stork , written by two nomadic gals who will “continue their nomadic ways forever and are looking forward to a gypsy baby to make their travels that much more interesting.”

And Robin, blogging at Here’s What I Don’t Get, just proposed we start up a page for separated/co-parenting blogs.  Good point.  We’ll put that in the LesFam editorial group hopper, and meanwhile — while we wait for a revised or new page for her blog — at least we’ll get started with a nod here.  When you’re there visiting her, congratulate her on polishing off an entire month of a post every day, as part of National Blog Posting Month. Wheew!

Ah! And one more thing!  I just wandered around a bit, as one tends to do online, and from Shrike & Whozat checked in on Vee and Jay and what should I discover but that they went and  had their baby!  So! First, many enthusiastic congratulations to them, and second, they can now be found NOT in TTC, where they were, or Expecting, where they could well have been for the previous 9 months, but Babies!

I have been updating the Spanish blogs– I would like to welcome A. Daniela, a Chilean couple in search of their first child and to create community in Chile for lesbian mothers.

Also, if you want LGBT news (in English) of the happenings in Latin America check out Julieta’s new blog: Get your Queer OUT in Latin America.

Please, if you know of any blogs I am missing — and I know that there are more bloggeras lesbianas alli– leave me a comment and I will work on fixing that!

We have had a renewed surge of energy over hear at LesbianFamily.org, as you have no doubt noticed. And to maintain that energy, we would like to expand our team!

Here’s what you would be signing up for:

* Minimum of 1 post here per month; more if you want!
* Minimum of 20 minutes per month of “admin stuff” like updating the blogroll, responding to emails, clearing out spam comments…. We will sort out specific responsibilities among the group over the next couple of weeks
* One year commitment

You are welcome to be part of the team no matter where you are in your family process. “Friends of the Family” will also be considered.

We do anticipate re-joining the BlogHer Ad Network, however, unless we earn a heckuva lot more money than we have in the past, we won’t be able to pay bloggers. In the past, ad funds have slightly more than paid for hosting.

If you are interested, please leave a comment below. Include your email address in the “email” section so that we can reach you.

One new listing to announce: to the bodacious Trying listing, please welcome

• L’Dor Va Dor- From Generation to Generation  Recently added!

Go give Melissa and Terry a visit, and tell them LesFam sent you! We’ve recently finished some upgrades to LesbianFamily.org, thanks to the handy work of Kemi at Poles Apart Design.  About which: want a WordPress blog? Have one and need a tune-up? Kemi’s your gal!  I mean, how can you beat that graphic (at right)?  The recent tune-up to current WordPress template standards has enabled us to edit pages in something other than raw HTML, which means: ALL THE PAGES ARE NOW ALPHABETIZED! Hosanna! 

Now that it’s so easy to find specific blogs, you might take another stroll through the listings, just to see what’s there. We’re talking hundreds of blogs, people, hundreds of them.  Nearly a hundred of them TTC and another near ‘hundred writing about their fresh Babies! alone. Both are topics folks have a ton of questions and answers about, not to mention so many of the others.  Basically if you are or are raising anybody specified by one of these listing pages, you’re bound to find kinship, solace and insight as soon as you start meandering around the blogs listed.

Frankly, doing this clean-up, where I’ve had the chance to cut and paste basically every single blog title in the LesFam listings, I’ve gotten even more warm and runny about all of this.  Each title (many of which I couldn’t resist peeking into and checking up on) represents somebody caring deeply about family and family-making. Some lesbian caring deeply about family, and caring about doing it right.  With love, and thoughtfulness (elsewise: why blog? since blogging basically forces examination, which usually forces thoughtfulness).  The titles alone are so telling, so full of humor, whimsy, hope.  Man, I love you guys!

Now! Please let us know if you want your blog moved from one page to another, to reflect a shift in the status of your family, and also please remember that we’ve added two new pages — Families of Color & Single Parenting – so if you or someone you know of ought to be cross-listed there, let us know with a comment on the appropriate page!

The upgrade has also enabled us to add a few new features, the first of which we’ll demo soon as I can figure out how to use it: a poll feature!  (Next week’s new feature? Well you’ll have to come back and see!) A site like this functions as a big tent for the wide-ranging community that makes up the “all kinds of lesbian families” who list their blogs here.  It’s also fairly content-lite, and user-generated.  So a weekly poll (or semi-weekly, depending on how long we need to keep them open to get an interesting response) seems like just the right way to take the pulse of the wide range of lesbian family (or lesbian family -friendly) visitors to this site.  We’ll try and do one every week, and will archive them for ongoing reference.  Leave us a comment and let us know what you’d like to hear more about from your fellow LesFam readers!

This picture, “Top of the Rock. Date Night!” was submitted by longtime LesbianFamily.org lister gal Shelli, who writes about her beautiful NYC family at Hydrangeas are Pretty. A new baby brother has just joined the family, and big sister Malka is “smitten”! Go on over and give ‘em all congratulations.

If you photograph your family and would like to share those images (to the whole entire world wide web!), consider joining up with the LesbianFamily.org Flickr group! Photos set to “public” and with the “blog this” option enabled are among those we can post here. We’d love to plug your blog, and share a picture of your family!

In New Listings news, Trying again, Story of a Lesbian Family in the Making now titled Serendipitously yours  has been added to the TTC list. Welcome!

And thanks for checking in.

And by “web,” I don’t mean the world wide kind. More like the spider kind. This second batch of phenomenally late updates has only been in the queue since mid -October! Only four and a half months! The other ones, well. Picture the inside of Miss Haversham’s house, from Great Expectations. That’s what the LesbianFamily.org comments mediation queue looked like. Dust over everything, spider webs everywhere, plates of unfinished food, totally crumbly and mouldy, the clock frozen in time, somewhere about early summer last year, when everything began to get just a little bit hairy. But all’s better now, eh what? Or at least, we’ve taken a shop-vac to the inside of the place.

The remaining installment of the updateage brings us all — stagger stagger, pant pant pant — up to the minute with all the lesbian family bloggery! Over fifty new listings in all, with a handful of old ones moving from one page to another.

To celebrate, I’ve added a link in the sidebar (no there — down a little further… yep!) speeding you all to the LesbianFamily.org swag repository at Café Press, which has been there for EONS, since Liza set it up. I’m hoping that perhaps with a handy-dandy sidebar link, these fine products will now have the attention they deserve, and will soon be winging their way into lesbian baby showers world-wide. Since it’s me doing this promo, I’m using the trucker hat to demo the logo in action. But yes, ladies, there are baby-doll tees. And tote bags, and onsies, and the works. Expect more such shameless promos around major holidays in the future.

Also in the future, we’re hoping to spruce the under-the-hood part of the site up a bit more with an updated WordPress template, which will greatly facilitate a few long-awaited upkeep projects, such as the alphabetizing of the listings (altogether too onerous in the pure HTML environment currently available to our admin panel). We’ll also settle back into regular postings from the wonderful LesbianFamily.org Flickr album. Please write with suggestions of things you’d like to see here, in the way of new listings categories, or other resource features. And likewise, let us know if you want your blog to be shuffled from one page to the next.

A heart-felt thanks to all of you who’ve waited so long to see your blogs listed here. Thank you for writing about your family and family-making journeys. You all, together, help to make our community that much bigger and richer. And the better the community, the better things are for our kids (or kid-conjuring).

Most recently listed in TTC, allow me to please introduce:

• baby toes
• Bang head here…
• A Tale of 2 Future Mommies
• Baby Mamas
• Two Moms with a Plan
• Our Journey to Motherhood
• Girls Seeking Gabber
• The Sock Drawer
• Dear Baby….Love Mama
• …two wives and a boarder marker…
• A Story of Two Moms
• Growing up Clangley
• love is love
• Two girls in love….

Most recently listed in Expecting, please mosey on by:

• Mommy and Mamita
• Two Girls Trying For A Baby
• An Offering of Love
• Craving of Motherhood
• An Accident of Hope
• Two Girls Trying For A Baby
• First Time Second Time
• Mesdames plus baby
• For the Long Haul
• 1 In Vermillion
• Darwin has 2 Mommies

We have us some fresh Babies, check ‘em out here:

• Enough Grows
• The Commune Child
• May the Beauty…
• Irreverent Mother
• Journey To Om

A few Little Kids blogs have also joined the LesFam fray:

• First Time Second Time
• Peaches & Coconuts

One of the above blogs is cross-listed under Non-bio:

• First Time Second Time

And several of the newly listed blogs are cross-listed under Single Parenting, a recently established page, along with Families of Color which I hope we’ll see a lot more blogs get listed on.

• The Sock Drawer
• Ocean Dreamer
• For the Long Haul

Okay, now! Of you go, to pay these gals a visit!