Comments on: Overdue http://lesbianfamily.org/2007/05/23/overdue/ find blogs from all kinds of lesbian families Wed, 24 Feb 2010 11:36:32 -0700 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.5 hourly 1 By: ohchicken http://lesbianfamily.org/2007/05/23/overdue/comment-page-1/#comment-15197 ohchicken Thu, 24 May 2007 20:15:24 +0000 http://lesbianfamily.org/2007/05/23/overdue/#comment-15197 we (briefly) worked with a "liberal" agency as well, who were okay with the reality of our relationship, until we were talking over the phone about an actual child. me: my partner and i... them: yes, your roommate and you... me: anyway, my partner.. them: roommate me: partner them: roommate me: no, really. PARTNER them: if you would like to continue in this process, you cannot use that word. ...the adoption didn't work out, sadly. we (briefly) worked with a “liberal” agency as well, who were okay with the reality of our relationship, until we were talking over the phone about an actual child.

me: my partner and i…
them: yes, your roommate and you…
me: anyway, my partner..
them: roommate
me: partner
them: roommate
me: no, really. PARTNER
them: if you would like to continue in this process, you cannot use that word.

…the adoption didn’t work out, sadly.

]]> By: Trista http://lesbianfamily.org/2007/05/23/overdue/comment-page-1/#comment-15188 Trista Thu, 24 May 2007 16:06:05 +0000 http://lesbianfamily.org/2007/05/23/overdue/#comment-15188 Wow, the logic of that email is simply stunning. let me read between the lines here... "Yes, [for 1954, rural Oklahoma] we are a very liberal agency... If a birthmom were to choose you to parent her child [though why on earth a birthmom would choose a single woman to parent her child is beyond me, but stranger things HAVE happened] we would of course encourage you to be honest with her about your sexual orientation and partnership status. [Though, it's not like full disclosure is necessary, after all, everyone knows that gay couples are inherently unstable, so it's likely that by the time the child was actually born you really MIGHT be the single woman that we wish you were.]... as you know, honestly is extremely important in open adoption, [but not as important as being heterosexual, white, married, and suburban; since you fall so far short of these essential qualifications, we suggest you lie your ass off and hope you don't get caught out if you want any hope of having a child. Or, better yet, why don't you just go get a high-earning husband and get back with us after the honeymoon.] Best of luck to you... Wow, the logic of that email is simply stunning. let me read between the lines here…

“Yes, [for 1954, rural Oklahoma] we are a very liberal agency… If a birthmom were to choose you to parent her child [though why on earth a birthmom would choose a single woman to parent her child is beyond me, but stranger things HAVE happened] we would of course encourage you to be honest with her about your sexual orientation and partnership status. [Though, it's not like full disclosure is necessary, after all, everyone knows that gay couples are inherently unstable, so it's likely that by the time the child was actually born you really MIGHT be the single woman that we wish you were.]… as you know, honestly is extremely important in open adoption, [but not as important as being heterosexual, white, married, and suburban; since you fall so far short of these essential qualifications, we suggest you lie your ass off and hope you don't get caught out if you want any hope of having a child. Or, better yet, why don't you just go get a high-earning husband and get back with us after the honeymoon.] Best of luck to you…

]]> By: Overdue « Round is funny http://lesbianfamily.org/2007/05/23/overdue/comment-page-1/#comment-15134 Overdue « Round is funny Thu, 24 May 2007 02:39:05 +0000 http://lesbianfamily.org/2007/05/23/overdue/#comment-15134 [...] Overdue Because I’m lazy, this post is, as usual, cross-posted over at Lesbian Family dot Org. [...] [...] Overdue Because I’m lazy, this post is, as usual, cross-posted over at Lesbian Family dot Org. [...]

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