Comments on: Obit http://lesbianfamily.org/2007/04/24/obit/ find blogs from all kinds of lesbian families Sat, 27 Nov 2010 11:54:13 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 By: Jennifer http://lesbianfamily.org/2007/04/24/obit/comment-page-1/#comment-11519 Jennifer Sun, 29 Apr 2007 19:30:26 +0000 http://lesbianfamily.org/2007/04/24/obit/#comment-11519 I know that when we did my father's obit Susan's name was right there beside my sister in laws. My mother (and I) wouldn't have it any other way. But I know how hurt Susan was 4 weeks later when we were on a family vacation for my father's memorial and my SIL introduced Susan as my friend.... I know that when we did my father’s obit Susan’s name was right there beside my sister in laws. My mother (and I) wouldn’t have it any other way.

But I know how hurt Susan was 4 weeks later when we were on a family vacation for my father’s memorial and my SIL introduced Susan as my friend….

]]> By: Trista http://lesbianfamily.org/2007/04/24/obit/comment-page-1/#comment-10273 Trista Wed, 25 Apr 2007 14:20:19 +0000 http://lesbianfamily.org/2007/04/24/obit/#comment-10273 I think it's these little things that show just how far we have yet to go. This is one of those little things that hook deep into the soul and refuse to let go because they're an indication that fear still has a solid place in the hearts and minds of our loved ones. It might be just a thin sliver of fear, but it's a stubborn one. I'm so sorry that on top of the grief of the passing is this grief of being passed over. I think it’s these little things that show just how far we have yet to go. This is one of those little things that hook deep into the soul and refuse to let go because they’re an indication that fear still has a solid place in the hearts and minds of our loved ones. It might be just a thin sliver of fear, but it’s a stubborn one. I’m so sorry that on top of the grief of the passing is this grief of being passed over.

]]> By: Liza http://lesbianfamily.org/2007/04/24/obit/comment-page-1/#comment-10269 Liza Wed, 25 Apr 2007 14:04:31 +0000 http://lesbianfamily.org/2007/04/24/obit/#comment-10269 I'm sorry for how hurt you and NSG are, and I think your analysis is spot on. While we demand that most of the family treat us as the family we are, a few members do get the "kid glove" treatment, even as doing that breaks our hearts. I take my encouragement in tiny bits. One of those family members recently "came out" about us to a few more people, and in telling us about it, said, "I'm tired of pretending." Unfortunately, that relative's spouse is not there yet. I’m sorry for how hurt you and NSG are, and I think your analysis is spot on.

While we demand that most of the family treat us as the family we are, a few members do get the “kid glove” treatment, even as doing that breaks our hearts.

I take my encouragement in tiny bits. One of those family members recently “came out” about us to a few more people, and in telling us about it, said, “I’m tired of pretending.” Unfortunately, that relative’s spouse is not there yet.

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