Sun 22 Apr 2007
Weekend Reading: More on Non-Bio Momhood
Posted by Chicory under Non-Bio Mom, Weekend Reading
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Following up on Lesbian Dad’s post Friday, I wanted to point out some other bloggers who have been talking about how it feels when you consider yourself a mother, but it’s your partner that’s pregnant or the one who gave birth.
Sarah at Journey of a Co-Mom de-briefs us on their Easter visit with her partner’s parents, and how it felt to be dismissed as her son’s mother by her in-laws.
Charlotte at Dos Mamas describes how she feels lost now that her job of getting S pregnant is done. She feels like she doesn’t really have a place right now, and that feeling has been reinforced by the people who seem to consider S the only expectant mother worthy of special congratulations.
and Lo of Family O takes up the subject as well, describing her feelings around her shifting roles and the ways she’s being viewed by the people surrounding her family as they move further into Co’s pregnancy.
Finally, Lesbian Dad has something to say about the connection and love of a Baba to her children.
That connection, while you’re looking deep into your child’s eyes, wipes all the hurful comments and ignorant slights away.
If I missed a blog post or three, please comment and I’ll go wrangle them in, weekends aren’t exactly the most to blog surfing for me…
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April 24th, 2007 at 6:38 am[...] If you haven’t already, head on over to LesbianFamily.org and take a look at the post that Trista put up of the recent Co-Mom thoughts on other peoples blog. [...]
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April 25th, 2007 at 4:52 am[...] To this end, Trista posted a pithy piece, Advice for Bio Moms, on An Accident of Hope. I thought it so valuable a catalyst that I couldn’t help but point at it from my Friday berth at LesbianFamily.org (childbirths and dogpassings notwithstanding, on Fridays I assay a little chit-chat over there). Then Trista (a fellow contributor to LesbianFamily.org), followed with this post rounding up more related conversational themes in blogs that list on LesbianFamily. If you’re a parent like me, reading these stories is just necessary. Like looking up and checking road signs as you drive. You do it all the time, so often you don’t even notice when you do. [...]
April 24th, 2007 at 8:48 pm
Neither Narda or I are Malka’s bio-moms, but Narda always gets the: “She looks JUST like you!”
Um.
We never know if people are being stupidly racist, or just assuming that Narda’s the bio-mom.
All that matters, however, is that I am Malka’s Eemah, and she knows it.