Comments on: Yet Another Twist in the Two Uteri Saga

By: karen

karen — Wed, 24 Jan 2007 04:30:39 +0000

My partner was always the “I don’t want to carry” one – partly due to her history of bipolar/depression issues – and I was the “really really want to carry” one.

I’m still the same but she’s changed her mind. I’m still trying to figure out how I feel about that. At this point I’m insisting that I go first, even though I’m 3 years younger and there’s no logic in it.

By: Jenny

Jenny — Wed, 17 Jan 2007 18:17:59 +0000

J – we have a similar situation in our house. There may be two uteri here, but one may as well be non-functional. It would also fuck with me royally to watch her be pregnant and all that, it would tear me apart in more ways than one, and I admit it.

By: Brooke

Brooke — Wed, 17 Jan 2007 16:50:49 +0000

same situation over at Chez Stork. For Sarah, it’s not even an option – such a thing is completely off the table. If it so happens that I can’t get pregnant, we will have to look at more invasive procedures for me or adoption. I guess going into the relationship, I knew this so it barely registers that she DOES have a fully functioning set of lady-bits. I will admit that there have been a few dark moments when I’ve dared to think of that possibility, but the idea of it is so foreign that it seems more parody than anything else.

Well written, J.

By: Cheese and Whine » Click on, My Friends

Cheese and Whine » Click on, My Friends — Wed, 17 Jan 2007 16:48:36 +0000

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By: Co

Co — Wed, 17 Jan 2007 16:46:32 +0000

Thanks for sharing another perspective on “TTC with more than one uterus but not.”

Hugs to you and S. This process is so hard.

By: Trista

Trista — Wed, 17 Jan 2007 16:39:00 +0000

Very good post, J. It reminds me that I was going to post a link to Sophia’s post about her two uteri household that isn’t.

What I wonder is how you would feel, with your very strong desire to carry, if she did change her mind and agree to get pregnant? What if she got pregnant right away? You would be happy, I’m sure, but how would that part of you that so very much wants to carry feel? Eh, this is probably a moot discussion since S is so firm on her position. I guess, to make this all about me, I just want to know that feeling bitter about not being the one pregnant is normal. Or, I guess, if not normal, is still understandable…